Grieving Differently
QUEERING THE STAGES OF GRIEF
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For more than thirty years, I've had the honor of walking alongside people through life's most difficult moments... as a pastor, speaker, and companion in grief.
Then, in 2024, my husband Peter died.
Everything I thought I understood about grief became personal. What followed wasn't a journey toward closure. It was an invitation to a deeper, truer way of living.
Today, my work is about creating space for others to find their own way through loss, to honor their truth, and to discover that even in grief, new life is possible.
It's a story of love, loss
faith, and becoming.
ABOUT TIMOTH
My story isn't
a straight line.
THE STORY BEHIND THE WORK
Why grief became my life's work.
I loved deeply.
Peter was the love of my life.
Our life together was full of laughter, adventure, love, and ordinary moments that meant everything.
I lost unexpectedly.
His death shattered the expectations I had about grief, faith, and the future I thought we would have together.
I kept asking new questions.
What does love look like after death? Who gets to define my grief? What if the wisdom we need is already at the edges?
Those questions led me here... and have become the foundation for everything I write, teach, and create.
"...though every journey through grief is unique, none of us is meant to journey alone."
MY BACKGROUND
Ordained pastor in the United Church of Christ
Trained in grief and loss under David Kessler
Serving queer communities for decades
Father of three (incredible) teenage boys
Digital ministry leader and content creator
Author, speaker, and grief coach/educator
Lifelong learner, seeker, and companion
WHAT GUIDES MY APPROACH
I believe grief is shaped by our identities and our identities are shaped by grief. Grief is also profoundly shaped by our relationships, our faith (or lack of), our communities, and our stories.
My approach is:
COMPASSIONATE
You don't have to earn your worth here. You are worthy of love and care.
CURIOUS
You are the expert. Your story and your experience lead the way.
INCLUSIVE
All identities. All expressions. All griefs.
All are welcome!
Not because pain disappears. Hopeful because love keeps changing us.
HOPEFUL
A LIFE IN COMMUNITY
I am blessed to be the father of three incredible boys who keep me humble and have me laughing daily. I am surrounded by people who continue to show generous support to me and my family as I continue the grief journey I am on. I do find peace in the occasional quiet moment. Though I am best suited to be among others, sharing life, sharing laughter, and sharing love.
I don't walk this road alone...
and I believe none of us are meant to.
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